/\ My kind of Scholar. XD
Seriously though, everyone does like to blame the tank. The best advice I can give though is to communicate, I've found that people are usually pretty cool once they're made aware that you do indeed know what you're doing and aren't some random troll/little kid/illiterate monkey, or whatever those kinds of people are envisioning when they jump down your digital throat so readily, and if that doesn't work, and the person is really berating you just start a vote to kick, I'm sure the rest of the party will probably thank you for it in the end.