That's stupid and incredibly selfish. 'OH I'D RATHER NOT RAID BECAUSE PEOPLE ARE MEAN TO ME BECAUSE MY DPS MUST BE LOW BUT INSTEAD OF FIXING IT I'M GOING TO GO WHINE ON THE FORUMS!" What in gods name is so bad with adding a DPS meter for PERSONAL use or adding a DPS meter for Coil or even PF groups? Is there something bad with that? Oh, is it because I'm SUPPOSED to play with someone who can barely get about 200 DPS in Turn 8 or something? No thanks. And PF?I'm supposed to wipe 50 billion times to DPS checks, or wipe to Titan EX because people can't dodge, or wipe to Ifrit EX because people can't do nails, or the healers don't know the fight, or in Twintania, I'm supposed to wipe 50 billion times to Conflags/Divebombs/Twisters/Dreadknights? Clearly, THAT'S how you want this game to be played. But hey, why stop there, LET'S LOWER THE DIFFICULTY OF COIL BECAUSE IT CAN CAUSE STRESS BECAUSE IT TAKES MORE THAN 30 MINUTES FOR A FIGHT.
As to "people being mean" GET OVER IT AND GET BETTER. I've stopped hosting learning parties because of this crap. Before I'd tell people their DPS was too low to pass A, I'd check what skills they'd use and offer them tips. I'd see what skills the healers used, I'd check the tanks cool downs used, but you know what? Because of people LIKE YOU WHINING ABOUT IT, I had to stop because I can't 'legally' use my parser anymore. So all those people who were learning? Screwed because of people like you. You claim that it's really because of elitists abusing it? SHOW ME. I've been active in PF quite a bit, joining adorable nublet learning parties, DFing Turn 1-4, Levi EX, Titan EX, Ifrit EX, etc, etc, and I've never seen it ONCE.
Not to mention, parsers STILL actively help you people in the new fights. How do you think we know the EXACT ACCURACY CAPS for Coil now? How do you think we know the required DPS from 5 players in Turn 8? BECAUSE THESE THINGS HELP US DO THAT. If you can't figure out how to play your job (Which is a BLACK MAGE FOR GODS SAKE, Fire 3 fire fire fire OH LOOK FIRESTARTER), then maybe you should look at a game like Hello Kitty Online.
No, people like you broke the game.2 major patches in it is already breaking the community in FFXIV ARR.