If you're not enjoying the game by level 30 FFXIV is not for you. I'm only level 32 and incredibly happy that I finally decided to get into the FFXIV world. When it comes to community you need to join a Free company and linkshell. There are guilds recruiting in every nation, give a shout out there and you'll see that one of them will pick you up. If you make it to end-game without a guild you will join one at end-game I'm sure.