Rude people in dungeons.

[KingOfAbyss]

There's a lot of rude people and some really nice people. Some of you may not like to hear this, but in my personal experience, roughly 80-90% of the people that are rude, disrespectful or demeaning are tanks. They are also the class that drops instantly from a dungeon that's not to their liking, leaving everyone else either stranded or having to leave and sit and wait in DF again (which is disrespectful of others' time, in and of itself). Happens more and more each week. To be honest, it's really made me get to hate the role of tanks.

In my mind, I compare it to used-car salesmen. You know there are probably some genuinely good, honest used-car salesmen out in the world, but you have personally seen so many greedy, dishonest ones, that you generalize. Basically, there's a very real reason that bad reputation exists.

Glad to be part of the 10-20% ^^

OP - Sad to read that, especially when you start. I believe you must be on PS4, kudos to you, learning the skills and all on a controller (which i've tried on my PC - awesome! ^^) is no small task, as well as learning the rest of the game at the same time.

a good FC in Jenova would definitely help. if you can make a 4 and 8 group with people in the same needs than you, you won't have to deal with a random person from another server.

Don't give up, the game is good, some players are worth the pain comgin from the rude ones.

Make sure you state when you begin a dungeon/trial that you are new, take screen shots of bad behavior, and report.

Good luck.

[HardcoreHolly]

Not pointing this at you but usually if you say "First time here" or "Hey, I'm new. Could you tell me what to do?" I'd be more than glad to tell you how to tackle the bosses or mobs.

Every member of the party is essential, so helping you is helping myself.


But if you don't say a word and just tank/spank and die over... and over... and over again...

I'm going to be upset... especially if it's a low level dungeon that takes no more than 5 brain cells to complete

[Taecyeon]

Not pointing this at you but usually if you say "First time here" or "Hey, I'm new. Could you tell me what to do?" I'd be more than glad to tell you how to tackle the bosses or mobs.

Every member of the party is essential, so helping you is helping myself.


But if you don't say a word and just tank/spank and die over... and over... and over again...

I'm going to be upset... especially if it's a low level dungeon that takes no more than 5 brain cells to complete

I did tell him. I set a macro up and said something like "Hi I was new to dungeons any advice is appreciated" and he did not listen.

And it may be true that it takes only "5" brain cells to complete but if you are new to dungeons you may feel intimidated and nervous at first.

Thankfully after the first few bad experiences the last few have been good!

It's so much nicer adventuring with people who want to help each other then put you down.

[Lava3]

Following this thread and had a similar experience. Posted this on another thread in response to some comments made about inexperienced tanks, which I was until I deletd and started again with a THM

[Kienkarajo]

I know the feel bro, I started this game as a healer and at the beginning I screw up a lot of dungeons. Even at lvl 50 I screw up Titan HM coz I was not able to dodge those plumes , now I can heal without any kind of problem because not all of them were assholes and they thought me what should I do. Sorry to hear that your first experience was bad but not all of them are like that.

[Tirnoch]

Sorry to hear your dungeons experiences have been terrible. D:

I'll never understand people that just want to capslock and whine like a baby at a mistake someone makes when they're obviously new rather than offer helpful advice. It's one thing if that person refuses to listen to any advice you offer, but it's another if you refuse to offer any advice and just spam the word noob over and over again. That's the kind of behavior I'd expect out of a 12 year old.

[Aelinau]

If im new to any dungeon i watch the video to get a idea of the bosses then i announce to the group im new. Generally they are very nice and willing to work/help out.

On a side note though i have come across some..rather rude people not because i was new but thier lack of willing to work as a team. I will not name shame but some remarks were cussing, others were "we don't do this for team play" after i stated running ahead of the tank was smart in my sarcastic tone which was then met by "Idc what you think"(that was from a guildhest just today on whm) which i couldn't understand myself. People like this tend to rot the play of other people for the fear of running into their type again.

Back to topic a bad bunch can ruin a community but only because they tend to stick out more then the mass of helpful ones out there. Don't give up for every bad apple there's 10 good ones!

[Diablo-Cyrus]

Oh man, I'm about to quit doing them all together. I've had one where if I don't know the level, I immediately put it out there since I'm the tank. I've had it to where a healer stopped healing me because he didn't like the way I was tanking... As well as talked a bunch of stuff that made sense if you're 15 years old. Then another today where I died from some massive hit, I put LOL cause I don't take it that seriously. The kid wrote, omg! Are you trolling? I told you how to not die! I said I'm fighting the monsters, I'm too busy to sit there and read during that. Then they go on. I really wanna just mute everyone... I wish there was an option to choose your age level and dungeon with those players instead of these kids. And it's very obvious they are kids from what they say and how they behave. It's really turned me off to dungeons.