How to stop a stalker?

[Delorean]

so ignore them?

File a stalking report to your local police station and forward to Square Enix (signed paper letter, return receipt) a copy of that. It will be assured they will think twice about do that again in their IRL.

I think everyone is just going to laugh at them.

There are irrational women everywhere who watch too many movies that are weirded out by guys they do not find attractive who have expressed their interest in them and meet these guys on a pretty regular basis in real life. You can't just, like, ban that person from your workplace just because you don't like them.

These women just ignore these guys and tell them off whenever they bother them... It's not rocket science.

A lot of people like this have an extremely exaggerated perception of the person they are obsessing over. Break it and they usually just back off.

But fact of the matter is that this "harassment" has been completely ingame. If you ask me, you need more to go off of than someone telling you they are in love with your character to try to make the title "stalker" stick in any conversation with someone serious about helping you with your problem.

You blocked them... They cannot talk to you. Why does it matter if they are always near you? If they make another character to bother you, then feel free to file a complaint about harassment.

[Foo01]

so ignore them?
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You blocked them... They cannot talk to you. Why does it matter if they are always near you? If they make another character to bother you, then feel free to file a complaint about harassment.

If they follow you around they can still do shouts and such. And people shouldn't have to put with other people intruding into there personal space, real life, virtual, or otherwise.

SE need to make player search not return any location information for people not on the friends list. And that information should be able to be selectively turned off by the individual just like privacy policy. Eorzea is big enough such that if that information is off, you can not find anyone in a reasonable amount of time if they do not want to be found.

[Symphony42]

So apparently this goofball is still at it. I was spiritbonding and saw his character walk up to me using Stealth, then proceeded to spam crying and cheering emotes, followed by dancing. This was right after they were seen by a FC member doing emote spams near them in another map, so this tells me that it is a deliberate action to be following not only me, but probably everyone in my FC now too.

Since blacklisted people can still see what you say, but you can't see their texts, I'll probably start making shouts/yells towards them, calling them an annoyance or something. Maybe a link to them on another gaming board, showing them flipping out on people (found out a lot more than I wanted by searching the character name). I'd think the embarrassment would be enough to drive most anyone away, but at the same time I bet they would love the attention.

[Akujin]

snip.

If you're on a PC, you could try /telling the person the entire works of Shakespere in private tells.

Maybe it's just because I'm kind of an ass, but I see opportunity in your situation to turn the tables against the person. Shame we aren't on the same server.

[nakano13]

I wish I knew what you could do besides just reporting them again for harassment if it continues over and over...but the person does seem like someone who enjoys attention to begin with. Ignoring them completely would probably be better than shouting/yelling back at them, silence can be pretty deadly.

[TeaTimeBear]

So apparently this goofball is still at it. I was spiritbonding and saw his character walk up to me using Stealth, then proceeded to spam crying and cheering emotes, followed by dancing. This was right after they were seen by a FC member doing emote spams near them in another map, so this tells me that it is a deliberate action to be following not only me, but probably...

I'm told he does it for role play purposes.. And gets upset when people don't respect his RP. The problem is not everyone rp's and you can't force them to do such.. :\

[saber_alter]

I'm told he does it for role play purposes.. And gets upset when people don't respect his RP. The problem is not everyone rp's and you can't force them to do such.. :\

is it liable to report someone for "disturbing the peace?"

either that or you can tell him to transfer to balmung.

[ExKage]

I'm told he does it for role play purposes.. And gets upset when people don't respect his RP. The problem is not everyone rp's and you can't force them to do such.. :\

I'm sorry but that's not RP.

Edit: and him calling it as such is a little insulting and offensive to people who do RP I imagine.

[Parodine]

so ignore them?



I think everyone is just going to laugh at them.

There are irrational women everywhere who watch too many movies that are weirded out by guys they do not find attractive who have expressed their interest in them and meet these guys on a pretty regular basis in real life. You can't just, like, ban that person from your workplace just because you don't like them.

These women just ignore these guys and tell them off whenever they bother them... It's not rocket science.

I'm sorry, but I had to bold that ridiculous shiz. I'm not a woman, so I'm not going to claim to know what it's like. But as I can imagine, they deal with physical and sexual harassment on a much more regular basis in real life than we do. Stalking as well. Anything that you've seen in the movies can and already has happened in real life thousands of times over. Never has anyone gotten hurt or endangered for being too careful in this situation. The opposite can't be said.

I don't blame anyone for taking what may be labeled 'extremes' to make sure it doesn't happen in the virtual world they want to be a stress reliever in their life.

[Souljacker]

There are irrational women everywhere who watch too many movies that are weirded out by guys they do not find attractive who have expressed their interest in them and meet these guys on a pretty regular basis in real life. You can't just, like, ban that person from your workplace just because you don't like them.

You are right that often the difference between "aww that's so sweet" and "stop looking at me like I'm a steak dinner" is how "into" the person you are, but that doesn't mean that all men are completely safe. Those movies you speak of are probably something you saw on lifetime, and they are all based on true stories. TRUE stories. There's a saying circulating around because of the "Yes all women" movement - Men are afraid women will laugh at them, women are afraid men will kill them.

There's a lot of really great guys out there that can take no for an answer, but the guys like the one the OP is talking about - you really just can't take chances. The OP did the right thing in getting away from that person. I just hope the next target is as smart. People like that are unstable and it has nothing to do with "women watching too much tv." Frankly, that comment is a bit of an insult.