How to stop a stalker?

[SummonerSenah]

Since you're in different FCs now, see if your FC leader will close the FC house to non-members. Then you'd have at least one place where you couldn't be bothered. Outside of that, take friends with you and have them report your stalker, too. And try to ask strangers, too. You don't have to be the one being harassed to report someone for harassment as long as you witness it. So people nearby seeing you being stalked can report as well. The more complaints filed against that person, hopefully the faster the issue will be taken care of.

[AnaviAnael]

Also, see if your FC mates will file complaints as well. If he's constantly at the house, technically he's harassing your FC too. The more people who complain, the better chance GMs will take it seriously.

[kidvideo]

how about "btw, i'm a dude irl & in my 30's... so... what's up?"

[Cherie]

It's hard to know if a harassment report has done anything since SE doesn't share what it does with the person who submitted it.

I have heard of suspensions happening from them.

I think that one person is joking that mentioned this, but you could try telling them you are a guy (even if that isn't the case). If they have heard you in vent that might not work.

Other than that, if you still have friends in your old fc, you could tell them about it. Perhaps they would control their member, even if you aren't in that fc now, they wouldn't want their fc to look bad I'd imagine.

[Seoulstar]

how about "btw, i'm a dude irl & in my 30's... so... what's up?"

Best advice ever. Usually sends them running away..usually.

[DoctorPepper]

Best suggestion I've seen in this thread is pretend you're a guy. If that doesn't work then he's just harassing you for the hell of it. If you sent him pictures or confessed your love for him at some point then you're screwed and will just have to deal with it.

I highly doubt SE considers this harassment, it's just emotes at this point and they don't actually effect you unless you let it. Maybe your best option is to lighten up a little and ignore it.

[Cherie]

I highly doubt SE considers this harassment, it's just emotes at this point and they don't actually effect you unless you let it. Maybe your best option is to lighten up a little and ignore it.

That may be true but, the thing I think is important is the harassing guy's intentions. This kind of blatant fixation is harassment in my opinion. His intent *is* to harass. Since it's willful, correct me if I'm wrong, but this kind of bothering is against the rules. The OP already blacklisted him. He quite certainly knows he is blacklisted and that is why he is emoting instead (since you can see emotes even from a blacklisted person - I've tested this). He is trying to get around being blacklisted. This shows he know he is harassing.

[DoctorPepper]

That may be true but, the thing I think is important is the harassing guy's intentions. This kind of blatant fixation is harassment in my opinion. His intent *is* to harass. Since it's willful, correct me if I'm wrong, but this kind of bothering is against the rules. The OP already blacklisted him. He quite certainly knows he is blacklisted and that is why he is emoting instead (since you can see emotes even from a blacklisted person - I've tested this). He is trying to get around being blacklisted. This shows he know he is harassing.

While I agree with you I don't think SE will handle it in the same manner. People spam job abilities on random people in cities, spam emotes on random people in cities. None of that is considered harassment but the only reason somebody would do it is to harass another person. I'm sure his persistent confessions of love could be considered harassment but that's why they implemented the blacklist, so people could handle those situations without the need for support to get involved.

If I'm being perfectly honest, I think the OP needs to lighten up and ignore the person. Half the reason he's so persistent is because it gives him their attention and that's what they want. Once he realizes he's wasting his time and getting no attention he will go away.

[Cherie]

Sadly I think you are right there Doctor.

I know SE does handle harassment reports, but I know the terms of harassment have to be rather specific.

Honestly I don't know what they would have to be for SE to actually do something.

Best case scenario though is they put him in GM prison and talk to him for a bit or temp ban him for three days. He could still come back and do it again. All SE is going to do is try to discourage him *if* they do anything at all.

In my case, I had someone after me at one point as well. I put in a report, but I'm not sure it did anything. He was at it for months, but eventually he grew tired of it. It took a while to get over his attempts at defaming me to others. Eventually he tried to make up with me and left me alone, so I guess that is good but. I felt rather helpless to the situation. As you said, my only recourse was to try to ignore him. Giving him no response seemed to help, but it was painful.

[ispano]

That may be true but, the thing I think is important is the harassing guy's intentions. This kind of blatant fixation is harassment in my opinion. His intent *is* to harass. Since it's willful, correct me if I'm wrong, but this kind of bothering is against the rules. The OP already blacklisted him. He quite certainly knows he is blacklisted and that is why he is emoting instead (since you can see emotes even from a blacklisted person - I've tested this). He is trying to get around being blacklisted. This shows he know he is harassing.

You can see the emote animation, nothing more. Not the text at all. The one problem with blacklists, is the blacklist is not in effect in an instance. So if you have someone blacklisted in say an LS you like, just not that person, you can still see what they say if you're running something.