Being Gendered Correctly

[Penguinmayhem]

and if you want to, correct them. Most players will oblige, and then the situation is solved like adults. If someone is a dick about it, report for harassment.

This is all that matters.

If someone says something that offends you in an open, public discourse, tell them it offends you and ask them to stop. Don't passive-aggressively accept it and then go make a fuss elsewhere and try to get society's rules changed. That only makes more people resent you more.

[Kaelah]

I usually get called a he, people assume most Mioq'te are blokes. It doesn't bother me, I just say she actually! Then they know. Nothing to get offended over in my opinion. If it were real life maybe, cuz you could only assume it means they think you look like a dude. lol. :P Online we don't know who is behind the avatar.

[Vilhem]

OP admitted you have a personal psychological issue, which is valid and legit I'm sure. I don't think anybody is downplaying your situation here, really.

But what you're asking of the community is to essentially bend over backwards and cater to your personal problem, instead of you, yourself, taking responsibility for working through your problem. Getting mad on the forums isn't the way to treat it. Getting professional help is. That's something YOU have to initiate. You can't expect the playerbase to do it for you by patting your booboos and make you feel better.


I'll say it again. Don't take it personal. The community isn't on some kind of crusade to hurt your feelings by calling you a "he". They don't know you. They don't know of your problems irl, nor should they. Those problems are for you to work out irl. Yeah I know, it sucks when sometimes irl seeps into games where we kill dragons, but how much of that irl seeps in depends on YOU. YOU are making this mountain of a molehill because someone called you a "he". Instead of crying on a forum, get some help so that you can lead a better, more fulfilling life. I say that with all sincerity, and as someone who is working through similar irl problems that I choose not to discuss here.

[bonta789]

so OP is a lala, I don't blame people for saying he. I cant be the only one who has a hard time telling some lala males and females apart. lets be honest they do lack the "womanly figure" and with a helm and some hats on its dam near impossible to tell.

[Vilhem]

so OP is a lala, I don't blame people for saying he. I cant be the only one who has a hard time telling some lala males and females apart. lets be honest they do lack the "womanly figure" and with a helm and some hats on its dam near impossible to tell.

I play zoomed out max all the time (I have poor eyesight so zooming out helps prevent motion sickness for me), so for me lalafells are indistinguishable. Sometimes I don't even see them when they're standing behind another player XD only way I can really tell their gender is if I zoom in to see them, and most of the time, I can't be arsed to do so. >.>

[Elackha]

btw just type the name is good enough as stated in ur character

[Grizzlebeard]

btw just type the name is good enough as stated in ur character

Was going to say this earlier. It's rare I ever use "he" or "she" in a party setting, old-fashioned upbringing where it's frowned upon to refer to a female as she. I'll invariably use player's names, shortened or otherwise, which in addition to making others feel like a human being rather than saying, "Tank this, healer that" also avoids any confusion.

There's also the instances where you blatantly know someone is claiming to be a female when they're clearly a guy which just compounds doubts over people's stated gender anyway. Personally I don't give a fig whether you're male, female or "in progress". If you're a decent player/person why should it matter whether you have a penis or vagina?

[Dawnshade]

so OP is a lala, I don't blame people for saying he. I cant be the only one who has a hard time telling some lala males and females apart. lets be honest they do lack the "womanly figure" and with a helm and some hats on its dam near impossible to tell.

This. I don't know how many times I ran dungeons with another Lala thinking it was a male Lala only to zoom in later an realize it was actually a girl.

[Marowit]

To whoever said "use they instead he/she to be correct"... as a non english-speaker i honestly had no idea you could "they" to refer a singular person o.o

I've been frustrated reading the stupidity of some people (now i'm sure OP is a troll, or worse, someone who can't accept than people maybe don't have to agree with him/her/it/whatever)... I showed this thread to my parents, just to see the reaction from someone outside FFXIV and its community

Do you know their answer? "Who cares? IS JUST A GAME"

At this rate i'm gonna start to talk like Sylphs... "The walking one"...

...

No, wait, that can be offensive too....

If you want to be be gender neural and polite you have to talk like hodor.

[Pantz]

I recently had a failed relationship. The entire world better not talk about love while I am still heartbroken. Come on! Everyone should empathise with my problem!

I feel like I am ugly. No one should talk about their beauty when I am around because it would hurt my feelings.

I have a sore throat. No one should talk in front of me because I would feel jealous.

I have a fever. Everyone better act like they are ill too and empathise with me!

I am feeling down today. No one should be cheerful in front of me to respect my feelings.

Why is the entire community trivialising and mocking the fact that I failed a relationship, I think I am ugly, I have a fever and down with a sore throat and feeling down?

Some community SE brought here! Everyone should be respectful of my feelings and magically know my personal problems and shape their every action according to current my feelings. Any of you that do otherwise are being personal!