I am here to play a game. I don't care if you are boy, girl, cat, robot or wookie. What i care about is if you can dodge when you are supposed to and you do not cause a wipe.
Personally. I do/will refer to someone as their in game gender until I'm informed otherwise. I've been called dude, bro, he, him, they, blackmage, scholar, she, her but, I know no one is trying to offend or hurt my feelings. People can be oblivious to anything outside their own little world. My FC mates know my gender as do in game friends. beyond that, it doesn't truly matter what the rest of Eorzea thinks.

I am not gonna tell you to "deal with it" or blame it on "all girls are really dudes" but i do hope you find a way to not let this ruin your gaming experience.

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on a lighter note.. no one can tell what gender a lalafell is until you flip them over anyway *giggle* disclaimer: this is a joke. some lighthearted silliness don't judge me!