The thing with FATEs is people only really use them for atma now, dungeons are far better exp, and allow you to improve at your job. I only imagine you aren't looking in areas that drop atma, I would assume you are in Coerthas right now, which isn't an atma area, so don't expect many FATEs.

My only suggestion is to cope with the long DF queues, or start your own runs in party finder.