Strangers everywhere u go

[Risvertasashi]

How did this thread become that tanky healer thread? Eh, I've already responded to that nonsense. Anyway, here's a genuine response and observation regarding sociability on FFXIV

Basically, her playstyle is impacting her sociability, or at least the way she wants to be social. Many of us here are trying to help her see that and provide paths to improve her situation...
As mentioned, if she just joined a casual FC, it really wouldn't be an issue, but it does become an issue when you want to do coil (yes, even the first one..), etc...

Maybe if you were actually pulling your healing weight/living up to the classes potential with all the correct stat-ing you could have SAVED those people with your heals. To me, when you say "I was the last one standing" or "I was the last healer standing" it says to me you weren't doing your job properly. Yes, people can still die and there's nothing us healers could do about it (i.e. ohhh is this a plume or a chocolate puddle let me bathe in it and see..." type of crap does happen), but that aside, maybe if you were actually HEALING instead of SURVIVING on your HP POOL, you wouldn't have been standing alone.

There are actually posts in her history about letting the tank or other healer die to teach them a lesson... After reading the OPs and thinking she sounded pretty nice, I was kind of shocked... but that sort of attitude also contributes to the problem, I think.