Strangers everywhere u go

[Yumi_umi]

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I added over 30-40ish ppl on my friends list ranging from kinda friends from release date - high end crafters - nice ppl i met in pf - some pvp ppl - and some nice ppl i met solely on the fact that we just randomly talked about canity gear and new ideas etc.
I tried ffxivarr cuz i was hoping that it would be awesome to ride chocobos with friends, kill stuff in a big party with ppl you knew since day 1, crowded areas that feel somewhat alive, the typical mmo feeling.
But since i never played an mmo before i was in for an unpleasant surprise. I ended up playing the game mostly alone which was not my fault as everyone was busy with things ( real life, coil, gathering, etc )
I was like wtf.... If i wanted to play alone i would play a single player game and not an mmo.
People in this game are so protective of their clique that if anyone new tries to assimilate themselves into tht said group they will most likely be shunned then removed.

[Lillia]

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Not completely true, if you even just wore mnd accessories and kept the 30 vit, I'm pretty sure no one would care at all. Most people do suggest 30 vit or even hybrid mnd and vit to those who cannot survive.

[Doo]

I tried ffxivarr cuz i was hoping that it would be awesome to ride chocobos with friends, kill stuff in a big party with ppl you knew since day 1, crowded areas that feel somewhat alive, the typical mmo feeling.
But since i never played an mmo before i was in for an unpleasant surprise. I ended up playing the game mostly alone which was

That is more of pre abyssea ffxi type feeling. But then again you would probably be left out because you would want to be a meleeing whm.

I do recommend Neverwinter if you are interested in being a tanky healer. You can tank like a whole room full of adds while still be a beast healer.

That almost makes me want to try XI...

Pre abyssea died years ago. Practically nothing was soloable so you always had to gather a party go to open world dungeons and kill rare dragons and bosses. I'm sure you've seen the video before but it was like this http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ARghlVjBab0

Cutscenes had a bigger impact as well. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PeeqDADjIsM

[Risvertasashi]

That is more of pre abyssea ffxi type feeling. But then again you would probably be left out because you would want to be a meleeing whm.

That almost makes me want to try XI...

Edit: I kind of figured... From the sound of it, though... Well, I would kill to have a XIV mostly as is, but with all that open world stuff (and a way to keep friends made through the duty finder when we do use it)

[Lillia]

That almost makes me want to try XI...

It had its bad corners of the community too obviously but XI was fun. Even there it had it's endgame gamers who preferred certain roles/sub-classes and such. (Jeuno was the area I can say that felt the most 'alive' out of the bunch though you'd see players in other cities too but not as much as Jeuno.)

Pre abyssea died years ago. Practically nothing was soloable so you always had to gather a party go to open world dungeons and kill rare dragons and bosses.

People solo'd all the time, there were powerlevelers who were paid to heal you while you leveled and people would do /ninja to level other classes all the time, beastmaster was a soloable class as well. They also had made books to make solo'ing a little easier pre-abyssea. (not trying to pick a fight, just i remember some other small details as well.)

[Ceinwyn]

I'm sure you've seen the video before but it was like this http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ARghlVjBab0

Cutscenes had a bigger impact as well. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PeeqDADjIsM

thank u for reminding me why i play FFXI and not this, thank you

[PArcher]

People in this game are so protective of their clique that if anyone new tries to assimilate themselves into tht said group they will most likely be shunned then removed.

You don't seem to understand how friendship works in a game. Its a two-way street; you give and take. In this game, that means raiding with people, helping people on dungeon runs, supplying crafts/mats or something similar. You have to prove to others that you are someone to keep around.

Being a liability, like you are as a tanky WHM, loses "friends" fast. You are causing everyone else to work harder, and people do not like that; having friends to raid with is supposed to make things easier since you aren't relying on crappy randoms, not harder. There's only so much supplying/conversation you can give before people stop taking you to dungeons/raids because you're underperforming so much.

I have a wide circle of friends and people I can call on for many things. I don't get friends for doing nothing, I get them by showing others something I can offer, and to keep them, I have to keep showing them that I am still valuable. Same things happen in real life; you don't stay friends with people just because, you have to maintain the friendship. One-sided "friendships" do not last.

[Pandastirfry]

You don't seem to understand how friendship works in a game. Its a two-way street; you give and take. In this game, that means raiding with people, helping people on dungeon runs, supplying crafts/mats or something similar. You have to prove to others that you are someone to keep around.

Exactly...we all know that one "friend", the moocher, never buys a round, when the check comes they quibble about what they had or claims "they forgot their wallet" and then goes on a rant about tipping, If you both smoke, always asks to bum a cigarette, but when you ask they're always out, asks for rides all the time, but is always to "busy" when they're asked...And then after awhile whines when they find out they weren't asked to hang out and can't/won't understand why.