Sounds to me like you want to join a community that isn't only interested in the coil. Guilds made up of players only interested in progression seem to slowly fade in activity once they all have the items they want, and they run only a few days a week. You seem to want a guild that has an active social base aside from coil and progression. I think our guild struck that balance really well but we got lucky. If you ever find yourself on Balmung hit me up and I can get you into a good one.