Quote Originally Posted by Astralos View Post
My biggest problem when it comes to this are the healers who keep healing the problematic damage-dealers. Most of the time I ask them not to heal the damage-dealers when they do that, and to let them die, they reply with something like, "ugh, can we just get through this dungeon?" and keep on healing. At that point I just tell them they need to find another tank, and leave the duty.

It was like that in FFXI too, I've noticed - this kind of "it's fine to suffer through anything as long as you get the job done" mentality. It's poison.
I was in Tam Tara and I had a lancer who was pulling. After awhile I stopped healing him but the tank would run to his rescue. Someone made a comment about how I was a nice healer. I then responded "I know but I was going to let him die but then the Tank saved him". Just after that the lancer chilled out and was more cautious. Sometimes just having a conversation will scare people.