i would actually recomend you just using different hotkeys for the fairy skills, if she moves or casts embrace mid macro you might have to press it again and wait the whole process to go by again, to have the chance of her doing the exact same thing she did the first time...

and for the ressurect macro, it will cast swift catst on you then try casting ressurect on all the party members in the number order, again... there is a chance that somehow the macro fails and you have to press it again and again till it works... of course if you have a<t> there, there isnt much sense in having the whole party on macro, or the target... since it is on top of the list, it means you will try to cast res on the target first, if you have already selected him.. no need to go though the whole party again.

the macros i use for fairies are only embrace focus target and mouse over, for the exact reasons you mentioned, maybe setting fairy to steady might help but.. i doubt it.