Okay I am about done with tanking

[Heroicbandit]

Any advice? Do I just suck too much?

There's a few ways to do it but it sounds like they're being jerks. While in my static, I take the spiders but we have our MNK LB the Rook. I usually round the spiders up by pulling them off the healer since they typically make a B line for one of them. If they stand together, all the better. Kiting 2 extra spiders with the knight/soldier doesn't add that much stress on me. It doesn't sound like its you and I think most tanks have had their fair share of people thinking they know how to do your job better than you even though they aren't doing it.