I think the real lesson here, is that stacking most anything in this game is generally worthless. And is definitely detrimental if you are stacking something and gimping other stats in the process.
Parry is good, but is not the end all be all. I would rather have a little bit of parry, a little bit of determination, a little bit of crit. Than max parry. I also agree with the OP about most of his points.
I think people are in general trying to theorycraft a bit too hard, and in the end just grab as many secondary stats as you can, while avoiding skill speed. = Win