Not sure how to handle the new player hate.

[Jinko]

its runoff from wow, just give it some time, they'll go back home

It's actually not, you rarely see that behavior in WoW these days, you used to though.

This game is actually a lot more toxic than WoW.
(I would say its comes from FF11 actually, because that sort of behavior existed a lot more than it did in WoW)

To the OP, you need to find yourself a good FC or group of people to do stuff with together, using DF is one of the worst things you can do in this game tbh.

[lxSch]

I understand the issue you are having now and i think i know the reason behind it. CT drops 10 soldiery, high dungeons drop 20 soldiery, expert dungeons drop 45 soldiery, so all those people from CT likely moved here. CT is a famous place for having the most of rude and trolling people, now they probably have moved. I think it's SE only to blame to making this change, i just stopped using DF due to this.
I suggest to try halatali HM - it does not have DPS checks and people should have no reason to complain, however they still will.
Also if you haven't done it yet - do the relic quest, 50% you will get carried through it.

[Sub-Xero]

I was running Sastasha on an alt yesterday as a Lv15 MRD and the BRD in the group (Lv50 with i90 gear) kept running ahead and pulling everything as well as going all out on the mobs. I politely asked if he would allow me to lead and also ease up on the mobs since he was frequently pulling hate and the healer decided to jump in and tell me my gear sucked and I needed to upgrade... Yeah, it's totally my fault the stat/level capped BRD is pulling hate from my Lv15 MRD especially considering he's attacking everything before I even get a chance to engage and/or build hate. Glad to see things haven't changed since I left.

[Khronikos]

Dude, just tell them to f off. That is if you are not a horrid player. If you are decently skilled gear barely matters in a decent party for normal dungies.

Also, DF is plenty fine. People tend to exaggerate things. It can be horrible but usually it is at least okay for normal stuff.

[Obysuca]

(I would say its comes from FF11 actually, because that sort of behavior existed a lot more than it did in WoW)

I can tell you from experience, XI NEVER had this (9 years experience). You'd see it very very rarely if that, most people were willing to help people out, even taking time to explain fights to people who hadn't done it yet.

XIV is so far the worst community (not everyone, but a large portion of it) I've seen in mmos. Never before have I seen such rude and childish people who can't take ~2 mins to explain something to someone who's new / never done the fight or who are quick to blame certain people for every mistake or they cry and rage quit because they couldn't beat something in 1-2 tries.

[Leira_Raine]

I really hate reading something like this...

People who abuse others for no reason, especially if the blame is actually on them. I've been blamed before at lower levels, and nearly lost my confidence on WHM (considering I played it very frequently in 1.0, this is a major blow) when a tank who had low equipment kept blaming me for not being able to keep up (especially after running into mobs without a single protect or stoneskin before I had the opportunity to do anything). At first I relied only on my friends. I swore off DF for a good while, but gained my confidence back as a dragoon and a paladin. I know the pain you're going through, and I wish I could seriously take you into the FC I am in, because I like to help those that really can't get a party or always hated on. People don't even give five minutes to explain a battle and instead prefer to wipe and rage quit, earning them potentially 30 minutes of lockout. So inevitably, it'd waste more time.

Anyway, keep either searching for an FC or create a friendly LS even. If worst comes to worst, create your own FC and advertise it as newbie friendly. If worst comes to worst comes to worst, I'd agree with others and say that you should just move servers. There will be people who would gladly lend a hand out.

Promise! Just don't let those that are toxic ruin your game. Honestly, I feel that the community makes an MMO, and there are seriously some nice people out there. If we ever cross paths, I'd be glad to help you.

[Terius]

I can tell you from experience, XI NEVER had this (9 years experience). You'd see it very very rarely if that, most people were willing to help people out, even taking time to explain fights to people who hadn't done it yet.

You can take off the rose tinted glasses if you seriously believe that.

[Arkghyom]

Just blist and move on.

[Obysuca]

You can take off the rose tinted glasses if you seriously believe that.

Maybe you had a bad experience, but all mine were great, never ran into the crap you see in XIV

[Edellis]

assholes seem most common in i45 and the early 50 dungeons. I dont notice them anymore.