Not sure how to handle the new player hate.

[Odett]

Sorry to say this to you, but that was your problem. You're doing 2.2 content as a very fresh 50. You may not know this, but currently Brayflox HM is the "go to" dungeon for 2.2 endgame farmers. You'll mostly see long timers in there. For fresh 50's, WP/AK is the starting place. Though I'd say, try to save up some gil and just get crafted i70 gear. Its crafting mats are bought with company seals now, which are easy to farm.

Actually, if you did enough sidequests on your first playthrough, many first 50's can save up to 150-200k gil. That's more than enough to get decently geared right away. That should get you started with Crystal Tower. Make your way to i80 and you'll be ready for Coil 1-5 (many coil PF parties ask for i80+ now). I believe this is the way to go, or else you'll run into complainers.

The new dungeons have a minimum iLv of 55, meaning he has every right to do them, regardless of how many overgeared players are farming them. If someone wants to control the iLv of the people in a group, they're more than welcome to recruit via Party Finder, but when you queue through DF, you do not get to complain about the gear of who you're paired with.