Got the download started this morning. Kind of at a loss for what I want to work on when I log in - I only have one lv 50 battleclass that was just getting into the later end game progression, and 50 in all DoH and 2 DoL.

Try this for wife aggro:
/bring wife a glass of wine
/pats wife on head
/sings wife lullabys
/wait
/wait
/plays ffxiv