I honestly don't care about other people's gear/class/job.
I'm not really a fan of speed runs. I'm only playing a video game because I have some spare time to relax and have some fun. I don't care if we even complete the dungeon as long as we had a good time.
I dislike the attitude where the game is a race to have all jobs i90.
If I had ben in the party with the OP, I would have excused myself from the party and left.

I knew a lot of very nice people in FFXI. I think the big difference is that in FFXI we were all from the same community and the same server. In FFXIV when we are in a dungeon we are usually with 3 other random people out of 1.8 million players.

After years of FFXI I knew a large portion of the players on my server. You knew who was nice, who was rich, who was a jerk and who was hacking. In FFXIV it's almost like you can get away with any type of bad behavior, in a dungeon, because you'll probably never see these people again.