My gripe with instanced content lies only within fencing out the community. Nothing "big" ever happens, where the community comes together to join forces and do something, unless Odin or Behemoth pop then the players join their forces to d/c collectively

FATES literally do nothing for me. Good concept but lacklustre exectution. I don't stop to watch people fight FATE bosses as I run to my favourite fishing spot, I don't feel the need to join in, cheer them, throw heals, help them reach unreachable spots (which are currently non-existent, thank you DoL stealth!) etc. Well, I do sometimes if I see someone solo-struggling with certain FATE but those situations are rarer than spotting a female player playing a female Miqo'te.

Those are the things I miss