fresh 50 sch looking for advice on how to up my game!

[TheHomieData]

hey guys! so i've gotten my sch to 50 recently. still getting the hang of micromanaging my pet (took him off free-stance @32). my problem right now as a healer is that none of the pre-50 content that i had leveled with really prepared me for any 8-man content that i'd like to tackle with my scholar.

link to my current gear set up

gear progression goals:
HQ rose gold circlet w/+7 crit and either +11 pie or +16 speed
royal gloves this week
garuda ring
royal boots next week
myth pants week after
(leveling up PVP rank in the meantime for pvp chest, boots, ring, and book. i know pvp chest/book is a big loss of pie, but it just looks so cool)

i'm the melee in my static group, so i probably won't be able to really practice healing in any part of coil until 2.2.

my questions are
- what's the progression of 8-man content i should be tackling right now (in order of difficulty, i guess) so i can up my scholar game?
- is there some way on the ps3 that i can rearrange the party list so that i have MT in slot 2 and OT in slot 8?
- if tank is topped off and has an adlo/adlo+stoneskin on him, do i have enough time to pop into cleric's to get a bioII/miasma/bio on enemy? maybe even a bioII/miasma/bio/aero/shadow flare if my adlo crits?
- because of the debuff it gives, should i be regularly using shadow flare or is it better to use my bubble for Sacred Soil?
- for my super on-point scholars - about how much off-dps can a scholar clock in on the average 8-man fight while still being an effective healer?
- i plan on getting my CNJ to 34 for stoneskin [+DAT UNICORN THO] but would playing CNJ/WHM to 50 really give me much insight on how to SCH better? [generally, i've always felt like playing other classes will make you better at your own i.e. learning to tank made me a better dps, etc.] because lvling cnj right now is just patience testing
- when is it more mp efficient to stoneskin the tank instead of adlo? how often will i have enough time to get both on him (assuming that i don't have the luxury of a whm in my group)?
- for what fights is it better to have my fairy placed vs having him on heel?
- any other general tips?