Like others have said, this isn't something that is just in ARR, this is something that happens everywhere; online and IRL.

You do have to find people you "mesh" with; play with people (join PFs), chat with people, join Linkshells if you can, ask about people's FCs. Be chatty...but not too chatty.

I would try looking at smaller FCs over the larger ones; larger FCs tend to be very impersonal and you are more or less just another member outside the core. Smaller ones you can get a better feel for the group and maybe fit in better.

But you probably will have to look for a long while; don't give up, though, there are people out there. You just have to have the good fortune of finding them.