It is definitely not all that easy, but keep your chin up and keep looking, you will find something that suits you. Like astrobear said, newer FC's are usually a good idea, though, not always, as they can fall apart rather quickly.

I recommend checking your server subforum for FC's that might be a good fit, and also wander over the the Super General Discussion thread in this area, a fair number of people in there are from Balmung and are rather friendly, see if any of them might be happy to bring you into the fold there.