Which server should I transfer to?

[Noshpan]

Isn't that the point of experience parties? To learn?

Usually they are parties where one member gets carried by the others in the group whom have already dungeon multiple times (and are most likely over-geared for the content). These parties are, usually, not there to help others learn. Usually, if a newcomer does manage to get their way into such a group (and isn't the one who posted on the party finder), they will be the first to be expelled from the party.

That is what you can come to expect from these types of groups, which is their prerogative.

Usually.