If there was something most people could fix with their internet, they would. Once it goes from the computer to the modem, in whatever form that modem takes, it is now outside of the end user's hand. Funny how 20+ different online games I have ZERO problems with lag. Only in this one. And you are right, I am not coming. I refuse to do Titan HM anymore and will be forever stuck with only 1 relic for 1 job. Beyond giving reports to SE and my internet provider, there is nothing for ME to fix. It is SE's networking code, how they decide to do things server side, and the internet path AFTER my computer. I.E., nothing for me to fix. Good thing there are still a lot of other things for me to do and enjoy. Hell I have played a number of MMOs on dialup, and outside of a little delay in my moving (1k ms+ pings will do that to you) when I was out of the aoe on my screen, guess what, I never got hit. Oh yeah, except for once again this game.
Just giving more examples that it is not always JUST A and B for bad melee dps. Also, again with WoW, I have seen people rage on lesser DPS people when the run otherwise went smooth with ZERO problems. The lesser DPS were of the appropriate level for the dungeon, the e-peeners were just heavily geared out and I could see no reason why they would be there slumming in the "lesser" dungeons. You know it is going to happen, someone is going to run their parser, get on their ilvl 200 tank, and talk smack and down to the ilvl 50-55 DPS for not "pulling their weight" in WP.
When people start being d-bags to people because of parsers, and this game becomes another WoW gearscore / parser / tunnel run aoe everything, then yes I will cancel my sub here just like I did WoW. I have already seen it start to happen in this game. You run WP because it provides some upgrades fresh-ish into 50, and for tomes, and then get raged upon because the tank in ilvl 90 does more dps. That is the WoW mentality. Especially with their heroics. If you don't seriously out level the dungeon so much there are no upgrades so that you can keep up with THEM, then they will throw ilvl / parser / spreadsheets at you. Same argument as going into WP as DF, and then being angry with the group when they don't make it a speed run. Exactly the same thing.
More people will use it as a bashing look how great I am tool, instead of a learning and teaching tool. We've all seen the PF comments and the attitudes. We just don't want to see it get worse.
It also takes a few seconds for the tank (who whoever, I can't always blame the tank) to make sure everyone is ready and at least buffed. That is not my mistake and I am certainly not going to make an item set for very temporary means.
You are right, it is a tool. People are idiots need to blame the idiots. Guess what else? SE change the CT "In Progress" tool because of those idiots. So yeah the tool can get the blame and can get changed because of the number of trolls the anonymous internet lets loose upon the world. A number of other tools got dumbed down or changed because of the trolls. I don't want SE to release another tool that will just open up the floodgates even more to them.
You want an official parser? Then let SE give you the exact numbers while you attack a dummy target. When you stop, you get your DPS. And ONLY yours. Or HPS. People can improve themselves, and it won't be a grief tool. Your non-DF static group having problems? Then your DPS can go whack at a dummy and see how they can individually improve. They can even have a raid attack dummy like WoW, so that your Light or Full party can together in the group check the individual DPS, as I am sure they will be higher as a group, with group buffs and debuffs. And guess what? Then it won't be available for the griefers. Everyone wins.