Personally, I like the competition. People are usually pretty fun about it on Balmung at least. I'm used to FFXI where mobs took about 5-10min to spawn and you still got outclaimed. There's a pretty wide area where the Apkallu spawn and they respawn pretty quickly as it is. If you really want to gurantee you get drops, make a farming party. It sounds silly at first, but if you are having trouble getting spawns, you can at least have a chance. I've made a few friends that way . On my BRD I can get about half a stack in 30min or less, which is plenty.