The OP must be very new to online RPGs. Here's what I use to describe FFXI/FFXIV to others, it's not a video game, you live in there and spend a ton of hours per week in there, it's not like mario or halo where you play for a short while and bam, you're done with the game. Online RPGs don't end and every mistake you make stays with you and only a fool starts over once they start playing.

OP, you may be using a game/PC system, a TV/Monitor and a controller/Keyboard, but you aren't playing a video game, you are living in an online world. Once you understand the difference, then you'll understand why approaching this game like you would a mario game, is not the way to look at it, at all. You have to try and try hard, that means studying and learning strategies whether they be typed or shown in an online video. Don't like it, then a MMORPG isn't something you will enjoy too much cause thats what you have to do to play these types of games properly.