First, I know how frustrating (or stressful) it can be to tank a dungeon. My main is a Paladin.
However, I have seen an increasing trend of tanks (last time I seen it this bad was at relaunch) regarding agro and numbering. I don't mean an occasional pull from a DPS...I mean as soon as a DPS or healer does something, the enemy gets pulled.
1. Aggro. Please understand and learn your rotations and your agro management. For me (again Paladin advice) I always start with:
a. Shield Lob
b. Flash (2x)
c. Two combos
d. Flash (1)
e. MP combos
I never get an enemy pulled from me with this. I would recommend something like this or something you are comfortable with but please remember...one flash will not last an entire battle. One provoke is very weak...its not used to just pull him back and then you can continue to another enemy.
My best advice is to tank up with your FC in dungeons until you are comfortable. You may get away without agro(ing) things but by Brayflox you MUST learn this essential tanking skill.
2. Numbering. Maybe it's my OCD or maybe it's something else, but I have to see mobs and them being numbered. As a tank I do it to instruct the DPS to focus on each target at a time. It's also considered respectful so that a blackmage in your party will know which ones to sleep immediately without having to wait to see which enemy's lifebar is dropping. It's also respectful for the healer because if another DPS hammers on another mob the tank isn't tanking then that DPS will probably pull it...creating an additional member for the healer to worry about.
It's also good for other dps so they can just jump right in without having to see which one the tank is tanking.
I will never complain in a group. It's not my style. I would hate it if someone scorns me so I only try to give valuable advice without making the tank feel worthless. Many people in the game are always happy to help.
As a tank don't be afraid to ask questions. Don't act like you are God's gift to the sword or the ax (usually, I find the tanks who put down other DPS or healers in a dungeon are usually very bad themselves but they will try to deflect the blame elsewhere).
I hope this advice helps anyone![]()