Is anyone else scared of dungeons or trying to progress?

[Kelvani]

I am on Goblin and Kat is one of the nicest people I know! Over and over she has gone out of her way to help others, and make them smile. She constantly runs content to help others. These are VALID concerns. DPS, healer or tank.. a new player needs help not abuse!

Bottom line: There is a real person sitting at a keyboard. You may think its no big deal to flame them, verbally abuse them, or belittle them because you don't really see them. However, you don't know them. You don't know their age, or their gender. You don't know if they have been on the line considering suicide and your treatment is the thing that pushes them over the edge. No, its not acceptable. Ok? Even a healthy well balanced adult can get their feelings hurt and become depressed by being treated in a de-humanizing way.

[lujate]

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There is a real person sitting at a keyboard. You may think its no big deal to flame them, verbally abuse them, or belittle them because you don't really see them. However, you don't know them. You don't know their age, or their gender. You don't know if they have been on the line considering suicide and your treatment is the thing that pushes them over the edge. No, its not acceptable. Ok? Even a healthy well balanced adult can get their feelings hurt and become depressed by being treated in a de-humanizing way.

QFT........

[Archona]

You don't know if they have been on the line considering suicide and your treatment is the thing that pushes them over the edge. No, its not acceptable.

This is pretty absurd. I will not step on pins and needles (nor would I expect any other random person to) by assuming everyone on the internet is borderline suicidal. If you need help, there are outlets in the real world. Escaping in a virtual world is not healthy for someone with suicidal ideation. Get some help in the real world instead of running away from your problems online or expecting others to treat you special because you have your own demons.

Nobody is forcing you to stay in this online environment that you cannot endure. This is not some abusive relationship that you cannot escape. Uninstall, unplug, and go take a walk, or talk with professionals or real life friends. Everyone pays the same amount of money per month to play this game, we are not your therapists nor your counselors.

[LiadansWhisper]

This is pretty absurd. I will not step on pins and needles (nor would I expect any other random person to) by assuming everyone on the internet is borderline suicidal. If you need help, there are outlets in the real world. Escaping in a virtual world is not healthy for someone with suicidal ideation. Get some help in the real world instead of running away from your problems online or expecting others to treat you special because you have your own demons.

Nobody is forcing you to stay in this online environment that you cannot endure. This is not some abusive relationship that you cannot escape. Uninstall, unplug, and go take a walk, or talk with professionals or real life friends. Everyone pays the same amount of money per month to play this game, we are not your therapists nor your counselors.

It bugs me that kindness and civility apparently fall under the mantle of "special treatment" in your eyes.

[Archona]

It bugs me that kindness and civility apparently fall under the mantle of "special treatment" in your eyes.

Like I've said time and time again in this thread, you should be kind to others and it would be nice if others were kind to you, but expecting everyone to treat you like a princess is ridiculous, and assuming that everyone you talk to on the internet is suicidal is even more absurd. You are not a special snowflake.

You should never impose your real life problems on others. They're your problems, not theirs. Deal with it.

[KenzieLynch]

Like I've said time and time again in this thread, you should be kind to others and it would be nice if others were kind to you, but expecting everyone to treat you like a princess is ridiculous, and assuming that everyone you talk to on the internet is suicidal is even more absurd. You are not a special snowflake.

You should never impose your real life problems on others. They're your problems, not theirs. Deal with it.

I don't see where OP is asking to be treated like a princess. I think she is just asking to be spoken too like a person.

That said, this isn't just a problem with MMO's but with the internet in general.

[Caraway]

Like I've said time and time again in this thread, you should be kind to others and it would be nice if others were kind to you, but expecting everyone to treat you like a princess is ridiculous, and assuming that everyone you talk to on the internet is suicidal is even more absurd. You are not a special snowflake.
You should never impose your real life problems on others. They're your problems, not theirs. Deal with it.

I don't think anyone's expecting to be "treated like a princess." They're expecting to be treated with common courtesy and like a human being.

Telling people they should die in a fire is not cool. Telling people they have no place playing the game is not cool. And those are just tips of the iceburgs of things people have been told.

I personally was bombarded with huge amounts of threats and how I should just go jump in front of traffic. Because of pixels.

People seem to forget that those are people on the other side of the monitor.

[Archona]

I don't think anyone's expecting to be "treated like a princess." They're expecting to be treated with common courtesy and like a human being.

Telling people they should die in a fire is not cool. Telling people they have no place playing the game is not cool. And those are just tips of the iceburgs of things people have been told.

I personally was bombarded with huge amounts of threats and how I should just go jump in front of traffic. Because of pixels.

People seem to forget that those are people on the other side of the monitor.

Words only have value when you give them value. Not sure why you would take anyone seriously when they say anything on the internet. Its the internet, and we're dealing with avatars in a video game. This isn't Facebook, we don't know each other in real life. None of it is real. This is what people mean by "grow thicker skin". Ignore the nonsense and enjoy your game.

[Caraway]

Words only have value when you give them value. Not sure why you would take anyone seriously when they say anything on the internet. Its the internet, and we're dealing with avatars in a video game. This isn't Facebook, we don't know each other in real life. None of it is real. This is what people mean by "grow thicker skin". Ignore the nonsense and enjoy your game.

Not only do I agree with LiadansWhisper that this is just complete and utter bullshit (words always have power and incorrectly used can have major consequences) but it shows that you utterly miss the point.

People shouldn't have to deal with this. They should have to "grow thicker skin." How about instead, people treat people like they're living, breathing human beings instead of pixels on a screen? The OP, and anyone who's been put in the same position, have every right to feel upset. This is abysmal behavior and should not be tolerated by any community with any degree of maturity.

If you want to participate in an online community with real people then you need to make sure that you're a mature adult and can handle it yourself.

I'm sorry but no. A mature adult knows the value of treating strangers with dignity and respect. Something you appear to not quite understand.

[LiadansWhisper]

Like I've said time and time again in this thread, you should be kind to others and it would be nice if others were kind to you, but expecting everyone to treat you like a princess is ridiculous, and assuming that everyone you talk to on the internet is suicidal is even more absurd. You are not a special snowflake.

You should never impose your real life problems on others. They're your problems, not theirs. Deal with it.

If expecting people to be polite to me is expecting them to treat me like a princess, then I am the biggest damn princess you have ever seen.

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Words only have value when you give them value. Not sure why you would take anyone seriously when they say anything on the internet. Its the internet, and we're dealing with avatars in a video game. This isn't Facebook, we don't know each other in real life. None of it is real. This is what people mean by "grow thicker skin". Ignore the nonsense and enjoy your game.

This is bullshit. It's complete bullshit. Words have power. We have the choice - as individuals - to destroy hope or create hope with the words that come out of our mouths. We can change the world for someone else with words we say to them.

"Words have no power" is a complete copout. It's an excuse for treating people like they are less than human. Like they are trash. But it's still just an excuse. A pretty terrible one, I might add.