Okay, so that's your point of view. You're entitled to it. If that's what helps you get through situations with incredibly verbally abusive people, then more power to you. That tends to be my tactic in dungeons, too, although I have a good deal more power as I can just let the jerk die repeatedly and refuse to res them.
That said, what works for you won't work for everyone else. No one should ever feel that they have to expose themselves to people who make the game unfun for them. No one should ever feel that they must put up with someone treating them like trash because "they should just grow thicker skin." No, sir. No. The person being abusive needs to stop, and if they won't stop, the person being abused should have the tools to protect themselves from such a person.
Sweetheart, if someone is so lost in their own personal lives that they feel that it is acceptable to treat another human being - whether on the internet or not - as though they are less than human, to verbally tear them down and grind them into the dust because of a video game, then yes, they are mouth-breathing basement-dwelling antisocial asshats. There is never a reason to treat another human being that way, and certainly absolutely no reasons in this game.Judge not lest ye be judged. Calling people asshats and mouthbreathers certainly does not help your problem. You are making wild assumptions and generalizations about people you don't even know. This is an extremely poor way to play the game or to view life.
There's a world of difference between "having standards" and being a jerk. I have standards. I've always had standards. I get pissed off and annoyed when I'm dealing with people who don't do their own due diligence for an encounter. I don't like raiding with people who make 0 effort."This is a game" is a poor stance to formulate an argument with. Basketball is just a game, but if you do nothing but double dribble and foul out, then you're not going to get picked up for the next pickup group at the gym, and your team certainly wouldn't be happy with you. People have standards and they hold you to them because they expect some degree of ability. The only difference is the threat of violence in the real world is replaced by verbal communication in the virtual world. There is no separation of skill and ability levels in most virtual settings, which leads to these kinds of conflicts. Not everyone is born to be a teacher, nor are they obligated to spend their time to teach you.
However, this does not and never will translate into my having the right to treat them like crap. If there's a way to rectify the situation such that the person who is the issue can be helped to perform better, then I try to help them first - because everyone was new once. But someone is grinding my gears enough that I'm going to lose my temper, I leave. There's never a reason to verbally abuse another player in this game.
This isn't about standards. Making the excuse, "people have standards," is, quite frankly, complete BS. You can have standards and not be a jerk. You can have standards, and not verbally abuse and troll other players. "Having standards" doesn't make someone automatically be a jackass to those around them.
And nothing you may or may not achieve in this game will ever give you the right to mistreat other players. Nothing. No one here - or anywhere - is "pro" enough to have the right to abuse other players. Period.