Getting bullied out of your own party sure is fun

[Thunderz]

Thick skin is what you need when you play anything online

I would have kicked the bard and told the rest if they wanted to leave its up to them and rebuild the party

people are D's online its really boils down to that. Nothing new

[Teon]

I wound up dropping party and turning off the game, telling my FC that I may be quitting (there's a lot more to that then just the game, I have a ton of personal stuff going on and the game happens to be my bastion of sanity)

Well lol, if OP tought this mmo's community is a unique suprise, try wow This community is the exact copy, same exact junk human being. Gw2 too, same kind of people (mostly, same players too)
You're just dealing with wow bored players pesting other games.
They pested gw2 turning that game to trash as community, now this. You have to hope once teso and wildstar are out something will change on this community.
As much, looking at gw2, ff14arr launch didn't fix that community. It's still the same junk.

So i honestly doubt the toxicity costantly reported on this forum will never change. It will just be worst.
Much more because people like us, kind nice players like the OP, bored to deal with dogshit human beings will just quit once a new mmo will be out.
Try to imagine what's left..

See it's fun. We nice player move, dogshit move too. So again, teso and wildstar will have dogshit community too and after 1 month you will see loads threads of how toxic is the community and how horrible is the behaviour of random players met on a group.
Tl Tr: If you're lucky to find your tiny group of nice players (regardless of the mmo title), stick with them until they quit the game, don't play when they are offline.

But if sadly you want to play a bit with random players, then this is my advice, regarding your issue:
Be the PF leader , pick slow and easy and newcomers are welcome, type as comment "NO RUSH NO BASH. TRAINING GROUP. LET'S TRY"
Once someone of your group attempt to open his mouth fingerpointing the issue like if he know what's wrong with a bad attitude, instakick and try to find a replacement.
May work. Don't be surprised if once you start to kick around (or the group fail couple times) some members will leave.
Yes, some are a bit retarded to understand it was a training group regardless of what you wrote as group description and comment. ADHD hits hard when out of pharmacs lol
Also, next time report asap players like the one you met for harrassment. Copy paste the chat during the report.

You would be pleased to know the JP community is dealing with the same dogshit human beings on titan ex, ifrit ex and coil 5, just japanese speaker douchebags.
But to add the douchbaggery they are also racist against any gaijin (so if the group failed it's just because of that damned gaijin, regardless of the truth)

Give a try, my suggestion may give you a lucky funny day, ONCE. Don't expect what i wrote as a working strategy every day. It would require an amazing server where the majority are nice peeps.
Forget it, the majority is dogshit.

This method is valid until April 4th..cough..

WoW wasn't that bad in the early days, before cross-server parties and bg. I think it's their party finder that also ruined the community.

So true

[Magis]

Well lol, if OP tought this mmo's community is a unique suprise, try wow This community is the exact copy, same exact junk human being. Gw2 too, same kind of people (mostly, same players too)
You're just dealing with wow bored players pesting other games.
They pested gw2 turning that game to trash as community, now this. You have to hope once teso and wildstar are out something will change on this community.
As much, looking at gw2, ff14arr launch didn't fix that community. It's still the same junk.

So i honestly doubt the toxicity costantly reported on this forum will never change. It will just be worst.
Much more because people like us, kind nice players like the OP, bored to deal with dogshit human beings will just quit once a new mmo will be out.
Try to imagine what's left..

See it's fun. We nice player move, dogshit move too. So again, teso and wildstar will have dogshit community too and after 1 month you will see loads threads of how toxic is the community and how horrible is the behaviour of random players met on a group.
Tl Tr: If you're lucky to find your tiny group of nice players (regardless of the mmo title), stick with them until they quit the game, don't play when they are offline.

But if sadly you want to play a bit with random players, then this is my advice, regarding your issue:
1 Be the PF leader , pick slow and easy and newcomers are welcome, type as comment "NO RUSH NO BASH. TRAINING GROUP. LET'S TRY"
Once someone of your group attempt to open his mouth fingerpointing the issue like if he know what's wrong with a bad attitude, instakick and try to find a replacement.
May work. Don't be surprised if once you start to kick around (or the group fail couple times) some members will leave.
Yes, some are a bit retarded to understand it was a training group regardless of what you wrote as group description and comment. ADHD hits hard when out of pahrmacs lol
Also, next time report asap players like the one you met for harrassment. Copy paste the chat during the report.

You would be pleased to know the JP community is dealing with the same dogshit human beings on titan ex, ifrit ex and coil 5, just japanese speaker douchebags.
But to add the douchbaggery they are also racist against any gaijin (so if the group failed it's just because of that damned gaijin, regardless of the truth)

Give a try, my suggestion may give you a lucky funny day, ONCE. Don't expect what i wrote as a working strategy every day. It would require an amazing server where the majority are nice peeps.
Forget it, the majority is dogshit.

This method is valid until April 4th..cough..

WoW wasn't that bad in the early days, before cross-server parties and bg. I think it's their party finder that also ruined the community.

[Caraway]

I'm really saddened to see that you had this trouble... Especially on our server. My partner and I actually transfered from what I felt was the most toxic server-community to Balmung and have had almost entirely positive experiences. We haven't yet reach the level of Coil or EX mode primals but so far things have been good as long as we're within the server.

I have noticed some of the unfortunate elitism in the Party Finder but I'm glad it's there as opposed to being forced onto Duty Finder randoms.

That said I do agree that this game's vocal community is by far the worst I have ever experienced and I have played in a number of games over the years. It seems that with every game my partner and I end up going to the bar gets a little bit lower with each community and I'm worrying that it is a slow degradation of the MMO community as a whole.

For a genre designed around social activity and teamwork it also seems to foster the worst of humanity and some games just heap it on themselves with some of their mechanics (this one in particular).

To the OP, again I'm really sorry you had a bad group. I assure you there are better folks about than those you're bumping into. It's just that negative always leaves a stronger impact than positive.

[Arkghyom]

I'll hug you, kitty cat!

[ArcheustheWise]

As broken as it is.... This is Yoshi's vision apparently so all i can say is: Please look forward to it!

[Virtuso]

I hear you OP. This is the worst I've personally ever seen for any gaming community. Even the FPS'ers that always get railed on for being so immature were overall more easy going then this crowd. It's gotten so bad even when I beat content I can't have any joy in it because of the constant bad attitudes from players. Rather then the thrill of victory I just feel relief that I don't have to deal with them anymore.

I'm simply refusing to P.U.G certain content at all because of it. Which leaves me little to look forward to log in for unfortunately. Game is plenty of fun with your own FC but can't count of FC runs every time I log in. Really killing the game.

[Mirakumi]

OP I feel for you and see this kind of elitism all the time.

For Example I recently on my SCH helping people on Titan HM. These people admitted they were new, and even had it as their party finder status. A bard joined whose gear was i80~ish. After a wipe he commented, "I came here to help, but if were not going to 1 shot this why would I bother?"

I honestly had to reply back. "You do realize people are new and your expecting a one shot? Are you kidding?"

He got offended and called me something as far as inexperienced and retarded.... I had to laugh. Anyways he ended up leaving the PT furious that a new group could not 1 shot titan. This guy. So funny.

We ended up killing it a few tries afterwards. I just always think how funny people are in this game. One wipe and it's the end of the world.

[Goodberry]

All this talking about Internet, anonymity etc. Like people weren't able to be total jerks in real life. :P

I don't know how you fare with people you know in your everyday life. Sincerely, my Internet experiences are no worse than RL ones.

Occasionally I have bad experiences in games etc. Other times I wonder at other people's patience.

[Keith_Dragoon]

OP I've never crossed paths with you in-game yet but quitting isn't the answer. I've run into my share of people like that and I'll remove them as quickly as they joined. That guy had no right to demand anything unless he intended to solo the fight. Last I checked those trials were a TEAM thing so you were right to say something especially being the leader of the party.

As far as the bullying goes I was not there so can't confirm the truth in your words but if it is true I have no doubts he fabricated info to channel the group's frustration at you. I may not be in your FC but this lala has your back!