Titan HM woes

[squidbunny]

Hi Sargatanas.

I'm a WHM. I'm also a 30-something player with a kid who plays fairly casually in terms of pace and belongs to a really small friends & family FC. I didn't have a relic pre-2.1 and started trying to get it the week the patch hit. Initially my latency was getting me hit by landslides and plumes. I forked out for Pingzapper (it works pretty well, BTW! If you're suffering with lag give it a shot and you can use me as a referrer - squidbunny - for a free month) and stopped getting hit by landslides and plumes ... only to realize it didn't really matter as DF groups or groups I was joining or putting together weren't managing to break the heart. Or! If they wiped they tended to fly apart and I was back outside looking for more dudes. It's getting harder and harder to get a group to stay together to try and progress through the fight as everyone's moved on to the Extremes, DF is letting me down when I can get a queue at all, and I've spent countless hours in the DF or the party finder and countless hours wiping to Earthen Fury and I'm getting super, super discouraged. I don't feel like this should be this impossible to get through.

Like I said I don't play as much a lot of people and I'm in a FC with friends so I'm not looking to switch to a bigger, serious FC. I also don't want to (and can't afford to! ) be carried, per se: I'm in a mix of myth/DL/CT gear -- iLvl 71; not super but adequate to the task -- and I can guarantee my survival through the Heart (can't past that because I've practically never seen it, let alone practice it! ).

Can anyone help me out or offer some guidance or encouragement? Sooo hacked off at this fight and feeling increasingly crappy about my lack of a single relic.