thanks for the helpful replies as a little guy i was standing a little to far away as to help the other players see me better

i started to train fighting so close to mobs faces they would almost turn also got wtf which cut my ping down from 250 to 170 not great but made things possible

i also put the mobs cast bar timer in a more visible place so i can see it charging as another reference for aoe attacks

i was sidestepping to avoid now i just run into the big fat bosses fulgy gut and and quickly shoot back in

on a side note i still think forcing me to do them as part of main story is lame
and pals need to be able to hold hate at a better rate

lancers dps always pulls mobs and sometime a healer will pull and no matter how many flash shield bash ect ect i do u cant get hate back sometimes lol