I learned, back in WoW, that the best way to avoid nasty and rude comments in groups is to watch the fights, or at least read the strategies involved. Now, before you flame me, hear me out: I was one of those people who used to just queue up for stuff that I had no clue what to expect (WoW) I have to tell you, in Heroic dungeons, it gets you killed, and all sorts of verbal abuse. So applying that lesson here, for example, the HM primals, I first watch the Youtube videos, either the Healer or Tank PoV. I will also read the strats beforehand so I can get a sense of what exactly is going on during the fight. But even with such preparation, wipes, accidents, etc, still happen. Its a part of the game. Don't cry, don't yell, don't be abusive. If you cant play well with others, you have no business on the playground, am I right? One could argue at this point: But I shouldn't HAVE to do research. Well, I can see your point, BUT, lets say that Garuda HM was a exam, a very important test, what have you, which do you think would be better: studying for it, and at least having a general knowledge of the material? Or just going in blind? I have no problems explaining fights and strats at the beginning if someone doesn't know, but you will save yourself and others TONS of anguish and hard feelings simply by watching a 10 min video. A lot of people gripe and complain about having to "carry" others. I don't consider it carrying if the person wipes a couple of times, then that last time makes it through the fight with no problem. You weren't carried, you learned what to do. Id rather wipe several times to ensure you know exactly whats going on, then to rage at mistakes. Although I MUST take issue with folks who continually ignore advice: If I say, kill the green line sister first, here, she is marked, and you are continuing to attack the red line sister, this is a problem. You aren't listening. Am I going to call you a noob and tell you to l2p? of course not. But I am going to keep repeating myself until you get it right. Some people get super touchy if you offer them advice. If someone offers me tanking tips, or healing tips, im absolutely going to listen, and if it works for me, I will thank the person for the info. Unfortunately Roulette DOES create a bad environment for new tanks, because if everyone is in af2 relic and all, and you are just starting out, unless they are patient and understanding, you WILL have hate issues. There is a reason people don't like tanking on this game, I want to level GLD/PLD badly, but hearing nothing but l2p failtank will discourage just about anybody...