Or do as I now doing: check forum while waiting

Anyway, glad that you understand and feeling better.
But just FYI, FFXIV is already a vast improvement with Duty Finder, Roulette, all those gathering/crafting and etc that you can do while waiting.
Back in the old MMO days, if you do not have guild/friends in game, you had to actually crawl to the dungeon's entrance through a thickets of monsters, to meet players of similar needs in the zone over there, shout/yell/tell to form a team before you can finally head into the dungeon...it's quite engaging initially, but the charm lose pretty quickly if you had to do it over and over, as that's very time-consuming to even get something started, and then you may not even have a successful run in the end.


BTW, instead of using Duty Finder, you may find groups through Party Finder too, it can be faster sometimes if you are the last few person needed.