How Can I Make my Fairy act like it USED to? :-(

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I just recently started the game and am still trying to wrap my head around everything, I have tried both a WHM and SCH as I knew when I started that I wanted to heal. Both classes seem fun, but Scholar seemed to fit my play style a bit more, however after running a couple dungeons on my SCH I had a annoyance that I was hoping someone could help me with.

After reading through this thread it seems, if I am understanding correctly, that there is no way to make EOS not cast Embrace until you tell her to. In the couple dungeons I was doing, low level stuff obviously, I was finding it annoying that she would either prioritize someone who dropped to low in health maybe a second before the tank or I had problems with overhealing as sometimes EOS would be behind me and I wouldn't see her casting Embrace and would end up overhealing my target.

I was wondering if I am understanding correctly that EOS will auto cast Embrace no matter what you do, and if anyone had any pointers as to a better way to control her regarding my above problems. The second problem very well may be me just being new to the class and having to pay better attention or a trick that I just haven't picked up on yet. Thanks for any help, I think I could really enjoy the class if I could get over these little annoyances.