Sadly OP, it seems to be the trend. I have all together stopped playing my main(whm) because every i DF, a tank seems my Relic +1 and materia'd Vanya and Astral gear, and assumes i want a SR. SO i created an alt character, leveling her through the story, hopping on my main every now and then to help an FC member or friend through some comtent on my WHM or level 41 PLD as i wait for more friends and FC members to get to 50 so none of us have that headache.