well aside from the smartasses i took a chance to build some macros for tanking, along with the advice of several, finished +1, and now tanking seems to of gotten much easier. it could be i just started getting lucky with smarter dps, but theyre actually giving me 1 BB chain (ST) or 2 overpower (aoe) before they just unload. seems alot of the issue with healing early was caused by early or prepull regens as well, i ran with a whm friend to test that specifically. no prehealing not once did he even approach emnity. then again that was someone i was on voicechat with and specifically requested that. expecting that from every run i know has zero chance of happening. guess its impossible to ask for every party to go 110% your way, in any mmo. well ill still say thank you to all the constructive posters, the info was much appreciated.