I never had huge enmity issues as a PLD leveling up (got ifrit's blade until Relic). Occasionally I had a BLM who would just nuke the crap out of everything immediately and I would lose it, but provoke, etc, blah blah blah.

I only really learned the other side of that when I made a new char and made a BLM, I'm not even that geared yet and if I lay into a single target with a few lucky procs, I take enmity from a Relic'ed tank who isn't "great". I had to spread out my damage across targets, etc a lot in dungeons with people I don't know.

Its a 2-way road, it really is - Always look to improve and adapt, even if the dps is TOTALLY in the wrong, it will make you that much better of a player if you can jury-rig your enmity generation to hold hate over them successfully, then you will have that trick in your bag later on : D

If you using a lvl 49 sword/axe and someone has a Relic +1...well that disparity will be hard to overcome, but should be extremely temporary.