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Thanks for the clarification folks.

So I can pretty much ignore the all/others thing then since I'm on PC and my targeting controls work like every other MMO I've played then. I didn't notice the bars on bottom were always mine as I thought I saw them jumping around when the text changed. Obviously I just wasn't paying close enough attention. I like it in the upper left better anyway considering that's where I'll be looking for party bars, I assume, so I'm gonna leave that option on.

I was pretty sure that symbol to the left was aggro/non-aggro, but I've ran practically straight through even level mobs with the red-symbol-in-triangle symbol and not been attacked. Must have just be an occasional mis-step by the game code when that happens.
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