Healer.. How do you target in Fates?

[Niwashi]

Plus healing people doesn't help you get gold if they are not in your group. People might thank you, but the fate won't

This is an often-repeated myth. You do get FATE credit for healing anyone who is fighting FATE mobs, even if you're not in a group. I've frequently gotten gold in FATEs just by healing other players when I was solo. I've also gotten silver just by healing NPCs (could probably have gotten gold for that if the FATE wasn't almost over by the time I got to it).

Another thing you can do is go into your character config, disable the auto filter (the one that changes when the weapon is drawn/sheathed) , and enable the manual filters. By hitting L1 + a button, you can swap the filters which change what you scroll through with left and right on the D-pad.

This is what I use. L1 + square makes me target cycle through enemies only, L1 + circle makes me target cycle through player characters only (whether in my party or not), and L1 + triangle makes it cycle through everything. It's made selecting whichever target I want really easy.

As far as healing people kiting, I would just say "please stop moving" and if they keep kiting just accept it and let them die. It is not worth the frustration as it is a nightmare healing someone that is running around, and barring very few circumstances it is a terrible thing to encourage, speaking as someone that has played both a healer and tank.

It's bad for the healer and tank, but it's sometimes the only way to stay alive. If someone is kiting because they have to (i.e. because they're on the verge of dying the next time the mob manages to get a hit in) then if they were to stop and stand still long enough for you to cast Cure, the Cure wouldn't work as by then they'd need Raise instead.

So telling them to stop moving is pointless. The best thing is for them to keep moving but stay within your vicinity. Luckily Cure has a fairly wide range, so they might be able to keep kiting the mob in circles around you while you complete the spell. You might consider changing your message from "please stop moving" to "stay within 30 yalms of me if you want healing."