Quote Originally Posted by LaLiLuLeLo View Post
I've had a healer that couldn't quite keep up before. I usually don't get onto them, because I also heal and I know how crazy it can get if a tank doesn't keep all the hate. People need to wait it out before deciding someone is inadequate at their job.

I've been blamed for everyone dying as a tank when I knew it wasn't true, but there's been a time when it was true, so I know both sides.
Everyone gets a little defensive because they all assume it's a little their fault, I think.

I wanted to start being a dps just so no one would yell at me lol.
A healer that couldn't quite keep up? As in, you died because insufficient heals? Both a Tank and Heal fault. Healer couldn't put out the numbers, but only until death Tank's would realize they couldn't cut a mob that big.

I'll point a finger at a Tank when aggro just keeps being lost when I heal. Last night I had a Warrior who seemed as if they were only able to hold aggro on one target (I'm not too knowledgeable on Tank works so I'm not sure what they were doing), I could point fingers to the WAR because it seemed that way.
But I've also rolled with a PLD friend and he couldn't keep up because of one dreaded thing... I had a relic, he didn't. Despite how much he tried to pull aggro, we were going neck to neck - I was keeping him alive and he was struggling to keep aggro. The differences in gear can be astonishing. He said it was hell everytime he had to party with people who had a relic.

Though of course any healer who spams Holy or something and then blames for aggro.. that's just their fault lol!~

As a DPS though you will get yelled at
I don't think it's people getting defensive it was their fault, it's the opposite. People getting offensive that you should be doing things X way when we should be adapting to another's play styles, not fighting another.