The iron rule of MMO's. If the Tank dies it's the Healers fault. If the Healer dies it's the Tank's fault, If the DPS dies it's Tank,Healer or Lag if they can't possibly place the blame on the other two XD.

But in seriousness i don't really pay attention to whiners if something wasn't actually my fault. On occasion it is i have nobody else to blame if i have a noob moment and get knocked off by the Demon Wall or something (Happened like two days ago and i think i will never live that down XD) but at times you will get yelled at but you just shrug it off. If you have to choose between saving yourself and somebody else you always pick you since you can't heal if you're dead.