So you want the game to tell you when to pay attention? Instead of paying attention to the game? I play using the full screen windowed option and when the game is in the background... I can move my other windows (which are in front) aside so that I can see if I am about to get pulled into a dungeon. IIRC There are options where you can allow the game sounds to always play even if the game is not on focus. So try that.