Quote Originally Posted by Sylve View Post
For those who claimed the guy had no backbone, it takes real courage to stand up and admit you are bad, and that you are not so great at understanding when people try to help.

He could of just blown of the raid leader guy and proclaimed he wasn't bad. But no, he took the other route by admitting to being bad and then working with the guy to improve himself.

Would that even half the players in XIV behaved as these two did, we'd have an amazing community of players.
Mmmm... I can definitely see where you're coming from, but there are two sides to every coin. While it is admirable to take responsibility for your actions, especially if you're being a burden to your team, on the other side of that coin... You should learn to have more self-confidence instead of being a welcome mat for everyone. You don't want to be that guy that everyone puts the blame on, even when it wasn't entirely your fault (see: a failed Titan/Ifrit/Garuda HM attempt). Since I've been playing as a Scholar these past couple of weeks, I have run into plenty of tanks and DPS that put the blame on me for them dying, despite them being careless.

Now, if I was like this guy, I would have just groveled and begged for forgiveness. However, I knew deep down inside it wasn't entirely my fault. Yes, I am the healer of the party, but I am only one person. When both DPS characters attack separate enemies and the tank is focusing on one, and I'm having to try and keep everyone alive, then someone dies, I don't hold myself responsible. It was too unreasonable to expect me to be able to keep everyone alive at that point and the character(s) died due to lack of coordination with the tank. Sure, I may feel bad for not being able to save them, but that's where my sympathy for them stops. In the end, I know better and I understand who was to blame there.

So, while this guy may actually have a backbone for admitting to his mistakes, I'd say he doesn't have a backbone because he's just a "yes man" and will say anything to make or keep friends. He's probably dealt with bullying his whole life, and being the lowest on the totem pole, so he's probably just grown into a habit of apologizing all the time, even if he's not the one at fault. It's kind of sad, really.