I have this issue aswell. Im playing out from Norway , so I have auto 140ms on a good day back and forth to Canada. On peek times, its up to 180ms.

What I have tried so far: (i have the game on ps3 and pc, but play mainly on pc, craft on ps3)

Same issue on both machines, my pc and ps3. Im out of the AoE but get hit.
TRied my old Router, same issue. Tried a newer other brand router from a friends house. (no he doesnt play ff14)
I have opend up all my ports and all the tweaks you can do with my router. ( ASUS RT-AC66U 11AC AC1750 Router NOT A CHEAP LOUSY router mind you. Check the reviews of this device)
Tried WTFast and similar VPN tunneling software, all they do is lower my ms from 140ms to 135ms. But still get hit and have huge lag spikes.

In my mind it is a fine combination of poor netcode in the game. Servers located WAAAAAAY to far away from us European gamers.

And all my friends playing out of norway also got this issue!
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Edit: My ISP connection is Fiber 50/50 Mbit both ways. So it is not my isp, since this isnt present in any other game/program ive tested from my end.