You're applying an availability heuristic like a boss. Because it does not happen to you or some people in your FC, everyone is obviously over exaggerating the problem. I am not saying a majority. I am not saying a certain percent. I am saying, based on the number of posts and reported incidents on the forum, there is a large body of people experiencing this problem. You do NOT know that thousands of people playing do not experience this. What you know, is that you don't, the people in your FC don't, and you know that there are a handful of people who have posted on these forums saying that they don't have a problem don't. You can not speak for everyone playing, but we can speak for every single person that has posted about this issue, and they out number those who have posted they do not.
EDIT: Also, you keep comparing the number of posts here to the entire 14 player base, which really says nothing at all. Try comparing the number of active posters with problems versus those that don't. Not the number of posters with a problem versus the entire player base. IF the OF forum is an accurate representation of the entire player base (which it probably isn't - most people avoid it because of the sheer amounts of stupid that plague it), you could infer the actual percentage of the player base that are experiencing connectivity/lag issues.