I kind of only started this to vent because i was really annoyed by one specific instance of something.

but just have to chime in on the monk thing. No, you are not making it easier, you are making it harder by forcing the tank to either spam AoE threat(which is weaker, generation speed wise), or to constantly switch targets(which is slower, focus fire DPS wise). the reason you pull off of tanks is because you go balls out full throttle from the tomahawk/shield lob. any sensible DPS knows to wait a moment for threat to be established. Or you've gotten terrible tanks, or your dots have pulled something(my main DPS classes are SMN and MNK, DoTs pull way more hate than you think, they just do it slowly.)