SO I didnt read much after the first page and having played both Warrior and Black mage into Coil I can honestly say that most tanks just walk in with a bad attitude. I was helping a group out with hydra yesterday and the dps couldnt get the add down fast enough and the healer couldnt keep me up for triumverate even with me poping my CD's. Instead of getting mad I would say things like: good work we're getting there just remember to burn those adds or healer good work but 8/10 times after a white breath comes a triumverate so be ready. The only time i get snappy is if someone shifts blame for their mistakes or refuses to try a new strategy (ex. at first we had a pally and i was BLM. the pally way over complicated the fight and wouldnt hold aggro or position and dodge correctly. I called him out on it and he shifted the blame to dps and healers so i went WAR to be a safety net and so on until he left out of frustration that we couldnt get it past half and that he wasnt willing to switch to a simpler strategy. after he left we constantly got it down to 5% until i had to leave for real life.